Some would say that there is no "normal" and that every child is different and that is okay. With that being said, is this normal??
-Punching a fellow student in the eye for calling Mr. Robles by a silly name?
-Kicking a new student in class?
-Become so obsessed with not sleeping that we can't sleep because it is "too dark".
-Insist on doing any type of word puzzle even though we have no idea how to do it.
- Has a new favorite show, the Monk? We like it because he solves things and has a cool song in the beginning.
- Is on the "girl's team" that "fights" with the boys.
These are just SOME of the things that Brandon is doing right now. Some would say that this is just Brandon, and I agree. This is Brandon and his quirks, but normal? I would say no. What is it? Asperger's Syndrome. Is it fun having this? No. Would I wish any other child have this? No. Do I know what to do to help Brandon? No. What can I do right now to help Brandon? Love him and try again to help him understand rules at school and encourage him to do different things.
As a mother of special needs children I have stopped judging parents long ago. Realizing that I don't know the situation and they are probably handling everything the best that they can. But today I realized I still do judge, I judged parents that had children that hit or hurt other children. What do I have now? Children (both Brandon and Nathan) kicking and hitting kids at school. Whether they are bugging them or annoying them, or what Brandon says "bothering me", my children are reacting with violence. Do we encourage this at home? No. Do we do everything we can to stop it? Yes. Do I know what to do to stop it? No. Have I tried everything that I can think of? Yes.
I think as a parent the hardest thing is trying to protect your child the best that you can. You love them and do everything that you can for them. I love my boys with all my heart and do my best every day to make them happy and teach them. At times like this when they are doing things that I know they have been taught not to do, I feel like a failure and feel lost.
I used to look at thing in a very black and white perspective, but not anymore, I realize that there are a lot more gray areas. You never know what is going on with someone unless you have been in their shoes.
My only hope is that we can resolve the issues with Brandon and Nathan hurting children at school soon.